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10 years ago, I had just come out of my first long term relationship because I found out that my boyfriend was cheating. I was so innocent ... I thought we would get married and live happily ever after.

 

I was heartbroken, but I was also a driven young lady and I was not going to settle for a cheater. So, I decided that I need a fresh start and I made plans to move country. I found a job in London and moved there at the end of September 2008.  

From when I decided to move until I actually did, it took only about 2-3 months which came as a shock to everybody. I don't think they took me seriously, but I wasn't playing. I embarked on a journey of healing and becoming the person I imagined I'd be, creating the life I really wanted to live.

I studied alongside my job, I got business mentors, went to events, seminars and soon after I started my first little business as a personal trainer. I then discovered property and started my property management business. 

I was around 26 when I realised that most of my relationships lasted less than 6 months... I've been told that I'm too independent, bossy, too picky, too masculine, intimidating... 

 

Why are we alpha women portrayed as mean, insensitive, materialistic, stubborn and almost always single? On top of being openly criticised, alpha women get told what we should and shouldn't do around the clock.

 

It can be hard to find a man as an alpha woman when countless people are trying to shame us for being “ballbusters”! There have been countless alpha women throughout history that have found – and kept – love. Think Beyonce, Melissa McCarthy, Miranda Hobbes??!

 

Those are just some of the alpha women that have fully owned their alpha personalities and found men who love/d them like crazy. Alpha women aren’t one dimensional - we just want to achieve our goals, be happy, help others, work hard, all while exuding confidence and the belief that we can have it all.

 

I met my ideal man DESPITE everything that is being said about alpha women and you can do it too! 

Last year I wanted to test myself, so I wrote an article to see if it will be published on a popular platform. Addicted2Success.com is a huge platform for entrepreneurs, writers and bloggers. I sent them the article I wrote about the first step you need to take to get what you want in life and they published it! I was really proud of myself because writing articles was so new to me at the time.

Since then I've also been featured in Arianna Huffington's new platform ThriveGlobal.com. You can read my articles by clicking on the titles below. 

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I had the chance to speak at a girls Sixth Form about confidence and life lessons I learnt and I was really overwhelmed by the feedback I received from the teachers who attended my talk.

 

"Steffie gave an interesting, informed and varied motivational presentation to a group of Sixth Formers in my school. She was personable and funny throughout. She pleased and diverted her audience and, unusually for our students, held their attention throughout. The school hopes to use her services again. Thank you for an excellent session."

Mr Edmund McCarthy - Virgo Fidelis Convent Girls Sixth Form

"Thank you for coming to speak at our VIth Form Seminar Day. Your talk on building Self-Confidence was lively, informative and the girls found it motivating. I would recommend you as a speaker at schools as pupils relate well to your warm and encouraging manner. Your talk is particularly relevant at this time of the year when pupils are feeling strained and in need of a boost."

Mrs Helen Wates - Virgo Fidelis Convent Girls Sixth Form

I also had the privilege to speak at the Inspire'd Stage in Mayfair on the 8th of January 2018. It was their 4th Anniversary event and also the first Inspire'd event of the year. 

I was incredibly excited to speak there because the theme for the event was "New Beginnings" and I have a great story to share. A story of courage, bravery, confidence, but most importantly the story of a normal young girl who decided to change the course of her life and who took the first step towards her better future.

 

IF I COULD DO IT, PLEASE BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY THAT YOU CAN TOO!